Woman speaks out about abuse
A BRAVE Biloela woman has told how she found the courage to leave an abusive relationship.
Speaking to Central Telegraph, the woman, who did not wish to be named, having only left the relationship a month ago, spoke up after Domestic Violence Month Remembrance Day on Wednesday.
The woman said she had been in an 18-month relationship with a man that verbally abused her and would get angry at the smallest things.
“He was very controlling - he would read my emails and tell me what to say on the phone,” she said.
The woman became isolated from her family and friends but she realised she had to get out jut over a month ago.
The woman's former partner was, in her words, “going way off the deep end”, having a fit of rage after she been away for a few hours.
She said he was swearing and demanding to know where she had been.
That incident was the final straw.
The woman sought help from a friend, who directed her to the Banana Shire Support Centre.
She stayed at the town's women's shelter before finding the strength to return to her partner's place and grab her belongings.
The woman made a dash for her items, stuffing it into a big suitcase.
“I had the strength of 10 men to put it all in this big suitcase.”
She has returned a few times since for some of her other belongings, and has again been verbally abused.
The woman said it had not got to physical violence, but she feared it would have come next.
She is undergoing counselling but left with questions why people can be abusive.
“Why, when you are so good to a person and give 110%, do they choose to bully and demean you?”
She spoke out in the hopes her story would help others suffering from domestic violence.
Speaking at the Remembrance Day service, Officer-in-charge of Biloela Police Senior Sergeant Nick Paton said three people had died from domestic violence in the Gladstone region in the last year, with one in Biloela.
He encouraged victims to seek help.
Lyn Anderson, from the Banana Shire Support Centre. said the most dangerous thing a woman could so is leave an abusive relationship but the centre can help.
He would read my emails